Tuesday, March 26, 2013


Once a Friend told me, you have to be content in you singleness before you get married...

I had to think about that long to understand it, that you have to be a whole person before you can offer yourself to someone else, but I wonder if being happy, content, finally accepting your singleness is actually accomplishing being a whole person??...If that was the case, prince charming should be knocking on my door, but the reality is that I don´t think that accepting my single life is accomplishing that.
Don´t get me wrong, I love my single life, I´m content with it, I´m actually attache to it, but I wonder if that's the main reason I´m not in a relationship, but deep down I know the truth (at least for now)  I´m loving my new life, and I don´t know if I could give it up.
All my Valentine days where a remainder that I was alone, or in a relationship, they were never about loving my self, and being happy on my own...Now that I look back, I realize that I was never truly happy that day, I never love my self and celebrate my self loving. You know, in your birthdays everything is about you, but not for me, I´m always checking if everyone is having fun and I´m to stress to have any fun, so I never had that day that revolved around me until this last Valentine´s Day.
My friend, Laura decided we would have a girls night Valentine (yeah she took the idea from the movie Valentine´s day) but her idea was different, we make this great invitations, where we had to put something we like about the girl that we invited, so they feel love, the card I receive was decorated with Nicholas Sparks quotes. The party consisted in a party where you could bring only one plus one...YOUR SELF. And we make that day that reminds us all that we where single, a day that reminds us all how awesome we where, we dance, we sing, we play games, we talk, we drink wine...we had a great self loving night. 
Of course, me and my single girlfriends still have "not so great" days, when we watch sappy love movies, or read Nicholas Sparks novels, or any romance novels...and we know that doesn´t help, but sometimes is necesarry; but after that down day, that you eat all the ice cream in the world, the next day remember to have fun, go out, and have a self loving day.

Monday, March 25, 2013

First time as a single women

Now that I see that some of you have enter (but didnt have time to comment, don't be shy hahaha), I continue...
I do work, I have a job, I work at a company, doing contracts in Spanish, English and Italian, yeah...you probably thought I was some girl like Sarah Jessica Parker in Sex and the City working for a magazine,don´t get me wrong...I would absolutely love to be her...great sex, flawless clothes, and the shoes OMG!!!....nevertheless I do have curly hair, now a days brown (i went blonde for the summer...not a good choice), and I do love great shoes and great sex. But the similarities end there, yeah we are connected like every single lady (if she was a real non fictional person of a tv series) out there, that would probably understand me way better than my best friend Lucy (who is in a 4 year long relationship, on the way to marry the guy).
I am single since last year, officially speaking, I did break up with my ex´s Eduardo about 2 year ago (i know exactly the day that we ended, but putting it would imply that I´m not over him...) but we continued seeing each other for one hole year (yeah...he was the best sex i had ever have, plus I was totally in love with him).
When I call Lucy, the day I finally decided to put an end to it (not my choice, but I saw him with another girl, actually and older women...and I have to end it, I not going to be anybody's second choice, except for Bradley Cooper, hehe.), she told me that everything would be okay  that it was for the best, that she never like him (your best friends always tells you that they don't really like you ex´s once you break up with them...whats up with that?!?), and she bring over the best 2 guys friends a girl can have, ben&jerry. The next morning felling like crap I had to go to the gym.
lets say it took me 3 months to finally go out again with some guy...and Lucy´s boyfriend, Tomas, decided his best friend would be a great match for me...
His name is Pablo, he came up to pick me 30 minutes late, everyone that knows me knows that is a NO-NO in my book but I hadn't have sex in 3 months, and I was starting to get, lets be honest... HORNY.
We went to a bar, to drink beer and do karaoke, the date was actually a mess, Pablo went all night long talking about his ex girlfriend, what he missed about her, and how I was the only girl he felt something for since they broke up (thinking that would get him under my pants, in this actual case my dress), the point was the only way I could continued in this date was by drinking, so I keep drinking beer (yeah main different with SJP I dont drink cosmopolitans, I drink beer...)...the next morning I woke up in his house...I told you I was Horny, plus sex is a proven way to lose weight, and being alone was starting to show, hehe. Since that day Tomas (lucy´s boyfriend) tried to fix me up with Pablo, he thought I was a sure thing...and that only happened once.
So that was the story of my first time as a single woman.

My single Life Today

Well here we go, this is my first blog, and for many things (which maybe I will later tell you about) I stop talking with my psychologist, so I decided to star a blog about my life as single, and maybe some of you girls out there (and boys if you like!) will follow me and my story.
First of all, I am a latina girl, leaving some where in the word (hahaha), now a day Argentina, but my dad is American, and my Mom Italian (I was raise in Italy, and English is my second language so sorry for mistakes), and my ex boyfriend was Latino (that's how I ended here in Argentina but that a different story).
I grow up with this family idea in my head, by the time I was 25, I would be married, or on the way to be....but my reality now is a different one.
I don't considered my self ugly, neither way I not a model, but I am pretty good looking (self love is everything haha), I like reading, watching movies and sports (the majority of the time to see the good looking athletes, but let that be our little secret...), being outdoors, and i am pretty easy going...so here is my shock...WHY THE HELL I´M STILL SINGLE AT 25.
I don't know if some of you feel the same, but when you are single you see happy couples everywhere...and I just think, why it cant be me...and lest be honest, we all thought how on earth that stupid, spoil  arrogant, (or what you wish) girl got a boyfriend and you didn't.
Realizing my attitude towards my situation, I decided that the first step was admitting I was single and being happy about it...and then i realized being single was kind of  awesome, I could go out and be with every guy I wanted...the world was all my (well no with every guy...i not that kind of girl, but I don't judge, if you like that go for it).
So now I have tons of stories from my new single life, my best blind date, and the worst blind date of the history of blind dates of the word, when my best friend boyfriend tried to fix's me up with his best friend (and he still tries...that is never going to happened...again), and maybe I will tell you about the time I fell in love with my psychologist...yeah I know...not cool...but if you saw him you would understand, plus he always had the correct answers (but now that I think about it that was his job). 
So if you are in for and adventure, sometimes crying with me about memories, have a good laugh, shared stories, and see where my singleness takes me, follow me, I´m a 25 years old single girl enjoying life as single, hopping to find the man of my dreams in the way.